Have you ever been at the stage in your life where all seem to be going wrong? Like you have reached a dead end all banged into a wall like my mom would put it.
A point where all you plans are failing, your possessions are getting lost, broken or stolen. A point where it seems like the universe is conspiring against you (The universe actually give you what you ask).
A stage where you do not know what your next step is. A stage where you have entered survival mode and all you wish for is to make it through the day. (Unfulfilling life). Or where bread, which was not part of your diet in your subconscious world is now comforting and best meal of the day.
A stage where you sleep, thinking that all will go away when you wake up but when you eventually get up, your problems slap you straight in your face. A stage where it feels you cannot help yourself. You wake up with a spinning head and go back to bed with a headache that aches in the sockets of your eye balls. A stage where all your savings is running out slowly but surely.
All you can think is “Lord Jesus How Did I Get Here”? Could I have not have known where the road was leading to… What do I do now, how do I move past this stage.
Darling you are not alone…. I have been there. I totally understand how consuming that stage can be… But you know they say: It does not rain forever and that there is always a way out…
This is what I did and highly recommend you to do
Have a second plan: I mean the alphabet has 26 letters anyways and they say when plan A does not work out go for plan B.I believe the universe has your back and will give us whatever we have the courage to ask. Think of an alternative of what you wanted and focus on it. Find a way for it to work out for you.
Keep your mind open to new ideas: Look everywhere around you, you will see new ideas and inspiration. Do not be too pragmatic. There are so many ideas and inspiration out there that we just have to discover. Have an open mind.
Take initiatives: Do not be stuck in your comfort zone. Do not let your mind consume you. Go out and challenge yourself. Look for ways to solve your problems. If it is a money problem, do extra jobs, work on ways on how to build passive income, work as a waitress, find something that you are good at and learn how to make money from it. If it is a job, approach the company you would like to work for and ask for an internship with them. Show them your capabilities.
Know what you want: One way to free yourself from life’s burdens is to know what you want. I believe when you know what you want you will have the guts to ask for it from the universe and will work towards it no matter the challenges. One way to know what you want is to create a vision board. On your vision board you will have pictures of all the things you would like to have in your life. You will then create a detailed plan on how you going to achieve it. You do not have to see every step that you have to climb on the staircase.
All you have to do next is to take the first step. Then watch as the universe work in your favour to deliver to you (It is up to you to decide if it is going to be one day or day one).
Another way of knowing what you want is to visualise. Visualization is the strongest tool you can use to perfectly outline what you want. If it is the double storey mountain house overlooking the city or the log cabin near Lake Constance in Switzerland (my dream) in which you would like to live in, visualize how it will feels to inside there for the first time.
Visualize how it will feel like after accomplishing what you want, how it will feel like when you name is called by the professor on graduation day…Visualize how it will feel like to open your business doors for the first time. Make visualization part of your life. When it comes to the dream car, go and test drive it.
Do what makes you happy: What is that one thing that will get you bed every morning to do even if you didn’t get paid for. Yes now that you know it, go out and reach for it. That’s your passion, you will always find ways on how to deal with it because you have a strong desire for it.
Look for ways to improve yourself: Take that extra class that will equip you with knowledge on a particular subject that you would like to improve and gain more knowledge on. Do your driver’s license. Continue learning and work on being better than the person you were yesterday. Monitor the progress you are making.
Take control of your mind: Do you know that we have the power to change our lives, one thought at a time. Your mind is the most is the most powerful think (beside your breath). All what you are going through now is a result of your thoughts of yesterday. Where you are now is because of decisions you made in the past. Take control of what you think. Think positive thoughts and watch as you transform your life.
Forgive yourself for the mistakes of yesterday: Darling you are human… And as human beings we will make mistakes at some point in our lives… Suck it up forgive yourself. Your past does not define you. Every day is a new day. You cannot control yesterday and do not let yesterday control you… Move on and focus on being your best self.
Relax and Meditate: I remember on one of my long journeys across Namibia, I was sitting next to a guy, and I was making hand gestures the whole 4 hours journey (you know those hand gestures you make when you are winning battles in your mind). The guy actually ended asking me, “Do you ever get your mind to relax?” I actually really got to think of it and I realised I have been draining my mind the whole day (that actually explains the headaches I used to go to bed with).
Solution is to relax and mediate every day.
• Start with 30 minutes a day, find a quiet place.
• Close your eyes. Concentrate all your energy on your breathing (inhale/ ex hale). You will be amazed by the conscious energy and freshness in your mind.
Do daily Affirmations: How often do you show some love to yourself? Wake up every day look yourself in the mirror, greet yourself, and say I LOVE YOU Monika for example. Tell yourself you are worthy and can achieve all you desire. You are beautiful, you are enough, and you can do it. Say all those things that you would like to hear somebody tell you.
Stop suffering in silence: Dare to ask for help. Find that one person that you can talk to.
Join community support groups: I come from a society where I will be judged first before being offered help. But you know social media has brought the world at our finger tips, I now have support from women from all across the globe on face book groups such as the
• Female entrepreneurs association,
• Coffee with Carrisa,
• I heart lifers among others. There are a lot of amazing people out there willing to help.
Lastly, you know what they say: “When all things fail, pack your bags and go travelling”. You will be amazed by how much inspiration is out there. You will get to meet likeminded people. You will get to refresh and heal your soul.
All in all…God gave you that life because He knows you can handle it best than anybody else. Note He only gave it once so go out and live it with no regrets…..
What do you do to get past dead ends? Comment bellow and let us connect.